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Comment Policy

I have one very basic, very essential, rule: don’t be an asshole. My house, my rules. If I don’t like you, I get to kick you out. I reserve the right to do this at any time for any seemingly arbitrary reason.

I encourage disagreement and healthy discussion. I also appreciate being called out on something that I’ve done wrong. However, there is a difference between disagreement and harassment.

Include any one of the following in your comment, and you will be instantly banned:

  • rape apologia
  • victim blaming
  • threats
  • MRA/Voice for Men/Red Pill arguments

Include any of the following, and your comment will be edited to remove the offending material and you will receive a warning. Continuing to include any of the following means that I will block you:

  • Sexism and Misogyny
  • Racism
  • Ableism
  • Homophobia
  • Transphobia
  • Transmisogyny
  • Misogynoir
  • Ageism
  • Biphobia

Note: arguments concerning “reverse sexism” or “reverse racism,” etc., for the purposes of this policy, fall under this rule.


I do not publish comments that include links unless those links are directly related to the post and contribute to the discussion in a meaningful way. I do very much appreciate links that meet this criteria.

Comments that are intended to market your book or blog will probably not be published. This will be on a case-by-case basis. If the comment still contributes meaningfully to the discussion, I’ll probably publish it.

Because this blog is a space for spiritual and sexual abuse victims, occasionally comments are triggering to survivors even though they may not obviously violate the comment policy. If you are feeling triggered or feel unsafe because of a commenter, let me know and I will evaluate whether or not they should be blocked.


4 thoughts on “Comment Policy

  1. I am 60 years old and have finally come to terms with the spirit destroying abuse I suffered as a child in the name of fundamentalist Christianity. I still believe in God and the many great spiritual teachers from all faiths, including Jesus. But, it took a long time to get to this place. I was terrorized as a child with threats of the possession by the devil if I wasn’t careful. I was told that normal anger from a child was possession by the devil. I was told and felt the impact of the belief that women and girls were to be subservient to men and boys. I was introduced to a wrathful rather than loving God at a very young age, an image that was perpetuated by the elders in my community. As you can imagine, every word, every action was fear-driven. It is so good to hear the stories of others who have suffered form this form of abuse.

  2. Thank you for such frankness and honesty about your experience growing up as a fundamentalist Christian! I was raised as a Catholic, and while there is much in the teachings and examples of Christ I admire I have left the church many years ago. I recently butted heads with two fundamentalists on a site about LGBT rights and actually felt bruised by the exchange! I can respect a person’s right to disagree with me on gay rights, but I wasn’t prepared for the vitriol and hatred masquerading as christian love and duty. It just didn’t make any sense to me. Anyway, thank you! You helped restore my faith in intelligent and compassionate discussion!

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